Winning Your Ex Back
With the Power of Your Smile
Although it may seem unrealistic, winning your ex back after a breakup or a divorce is still possible. Without any doubt, separating from someone you love is one of the toughest experiences you may have in your life. Fortunately, not all the breakups are exactly what they seem to be. Some breakups are simply means to redefine the relationship, shake the things up and enter the relationship with the renewed energy and passion. In fact, the people who have a wise approach to this problem, often manage to emerge from this experience feeling more together than ever before.
At this stage it is normal to feel sick and tired, but winning your ex back is unlikely unless you develop a very special attitude that is characterized by positiveness and energy. This is an attitude of a person who has many things going on for her and who has a great desire to live. This kind of attitude is so effective not only because it improves the quality of your life and is healthy for you, but also makes your ex eager to get you back, because now you seem to be fun to live with.
It is amazing that our bodies are built in a way that when we force ourselves to smile and keep that smile for a minute or so, we truly start to feel better. So if you find nothing that could make you happy, make this last effort and smile. Your beautiful smile is a base of success in almost all areas of your life, especially in relationships. This time it will be the reason for winning your ex back.
The power of smile is proved by scientific research. The scientists say that even if we don't feel particularly happy but we force ourselves to smile, our brain activity moves to spontaneous happiness. When you feel bad, try to smile for a minute or two. You will notice that now you actually feel better. Laughing and smiling relieves stress and cures your body by stimulating our body's natural painkillers and endorphins (see Body Language and Smiling).
So you have a choice here: you either continue being gloomy and negative, which will push your ex and everyone else away from you, or, alternatively, you can decide that you will be happy no matter what with him or without. You can decide to show your ex that even after going through all the humiliation you still have self-confidence and you refuse to be like an exposed raw nerve. You can decide to show him that you are able to deal with your problems on your own and have a lot of fun along the way.
Do not stay alone. Your family, friends, colleagues and neighbors form your 'safety nets' that help you stay strong and keep your perspective. This prevents you from exaggerating your pain, cures your loneliness, as well it helps you see your ex in real light without idealizing him, which is very important. This helps you to reassess all the events and you may start looking at all what has happened to you differently.
Try to be around the people who are interesting and who are excited about something. The happiness is just like a smile - it has an infectious quality to it. Seek to have some of their happiness rob off on you - you will find their effect therapeutic. Avoid sad stories, sad books, sad movies and especially sad music. Do not underestimate this: books you read, movies you watch and music you listen to have a hypnotic effect on you. Make a conscious choice to be happy and pursue the happiness.
Finally, remember that you are not alone. The book below this article has helped thousands of people to turn everything around. Do not ignore the advice of those who took time and energy to actually study the psychological aspects of what happens during the breakup and what needs to be done for winning your ex back. Remember, you might redefine your relationship in a way that you will even feel thankful that all this has happened. You never know...
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