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If you ever wondered how to be mysterious this article will give you the answers. You've probably noticed that mysterious people generally seem more attractive to friends and lovers, as well as they have more control over their relationships.
There are many subtle qualities that make a person mysterious, but the basic ones are just three. Applying just these three tricks will change other people's perception of you.
Be Quiet
The first trait of mysterious people is being quiet. This makes them different, because most of the people do not control their tongues. They will tell you everything they have in their hearts and will share with you their future plans. If you are listening and they feel good with you they will keep coming around until they will grow bored with you or until they find someone new who is always more exciting than you. This happens because it is easy and natural to say everything that you have in your mind, as well as it is easy and natural to take for granted what is available and you didn't have to work for having it.
To avoid that, say less than necessary, make your answers short. This creates the aura of mystery around you, it seems you certainly have wisdom and power. Instantly you will seem more attractive. Your company will be desired, because you are rare and unique. This also increases respect.
Being silent has a number of benefits. First, it keeps you out of trouble which is enough by itself.
Second, when you are silent, you are probably thinking, which makes it look that you are up to something. Seems, there is so much more to you than what they already know. It is not clear where do you stand. This very thing intrigues people, making them want to crack your code. So, you become attractive, an object of interest, a magnet.
Third, you win some time for yourself. You will be able to think about everything once again and find the way to turn the situation to your advantage.
So, do not wear your heart on you sleeve, do not rush to give judgments. Just keep silent a little longer. Do not be afraid to seem weak. Time will show, the people around you will realize the hidden power you have. They will respect you and come to seek for your advice. Your partners will be convinced they have found a wonderful prize, so they will make sure they "earn their keep".
Being silent may seem unnatural for you in the beginning, but make an effort and train yourself until it becomes a part of your nature.
Remember about the Law of Scarcity
As we already said, it is easy and natural to take for granted what is available and you didn't have to work for having it.
So, make conclusions. Do not be available always. No matter how good it feels, keep law of scarcity in your mind. Things that are easily available become less and less appreciated. Without knowing why, they will back off and you will wonder why they don't respect you as before, why they don't take you serious, why are you taken for granted, why aren't they crazy in love with you like they used to be, where did their passion go.
Leave early making people crave for a little more of you, be absent sometimes, especially when you start feeling that their love and respect started to decrease. Your absence will turn everything around and they will work to get you back. Once you got them where you want them to be, keep them there by being pleasant to be around but scarce.
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Break the Patterns
The third point is breaking your own patterns. As children you were expected to behave within certain limits. Already then you learned that not complying with certain rules comes with its social price.
However, in some situations it is highly valuable to be unpredictable. These are love contests, business competition, and fights - be that a physical struggle or a psychological warfare. No doubt, these are very important dimensions of your life, this is why you don't want to ignore this important tool.
Practice strategical randomness. First, set patterns. Be ordinary and predictable just for the sake of bringing the contrast later on. Then strike with something unexpected, surprise with behavior that is unusual for you. Depending on situation, this intrigues, attracts and excites those who are positive about you. At the same time it shocks and scares your competitors, making them lose their balance and presence of mind. It is a knockout.
Don't overdo, otherwise you will seem mad. Your randomness should be carefully planned and tailored for your goal.
Being unpredictable has this impact on people because what you do is outside their experience, they understand they need to react immediately but they are unable to do so, because they are not prepared. As a result they drop their masks and become emotional, and emotional people are open and sincere, they can't hide their reality anymore, and are easy to read.
Warning:
You need to be careful with breaking patterns, do not always do the same thing. You should vary your surprises, do not repeat the same surprise over and over again because it worked for you in the past. Some people realize that some particular behavior worked for them, then they tend to repeat it. But repeated over and over again it becomes rather boring cycle, it is predictable.
Another warning: you need to practice this carefully if you are in subordinate position, because your mysteriousness may raise suspicions. But even in that situation you still need to find that delicate balance between two different behaviors so they trust you but don't take you for granted.
Additional benefit:
If you make it a point to break your own patterns from time to time you will find that this vitalizes, energizes and refreshes you mentally and physically. It is a characteristic of youth, because as we age we tend to crave for predictability. This is a psychological aging process. Fight it. Feel alive!
Final Word:
In the beginning applying these tips will feel like you are playing games and it will feel pretty hard to do. However with practice, it will gradually become a part of who you are. If you use these tips wisely you will have more success in all your relationships, especially what refers to love and managing subordinates.
