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Falling in love always has been a mystery. Psychologists wondered what is that thing that causes romantic love? However, their attempts to find out were often unsuccessful. Even Sigmund Freud said: "We really don't know much about love".
Fortunately for us, these days we know much more about falling in love than what was known on the days of Freud. Modern scientists revealed chemical, biological and psychological factors that happen when the person falls in love. Moreover, they told us how to use it to our advantage! Here are important factors that proved to be decisive in matters of heart.
First impression
When man and woman meet, first impression is often crucial for their future. It is even more important than many other things, because they have only one chance to get it right. The number-one tactic here is to smile, because smile conveys acceptance, confidence and happiness. Ever wondered why happy people seem so attractive and likable even if you intellectually realize that they are not that much physically beautiful? That is because happiness (same as unhappiness) has a contagious quality to it. You tend to be happier around happy people.
Another reason for why first impression is so crucial for falling in love is the fact that everything you say and do after that will be filtered through it. So, since you never know when, where and who you will meet, be always ready for such situations, do some conscious groundwork to get it just right.
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Resemblance
People tend to trust, like and believe those who are somehow similar to them. So, you need to find a way to show that you resemble somehow, like both of you love football (for starters), or both of you hate snakes. However, don't overdo, because nobody wants to be married to his/her absolute copy. This is why you should also have some contrasts to keep the spark in the relationship. It is really great if these differences compensate for each other, like one of the lovers hates to deal with papers, while another one takes pride in his paperwork.
Benefit
You want to think that love is always selfless and pure, but get real, life is not always what you want it to be. "What's in it for me" approach is true in falling in love like it is true in other matters. Your sweetheart has to be convinced that you are a great catch. S/he considers things like how beautiful you are, how special or unique you are, how rich you are (even if you are a woman), how educated you are, how much you bring into relationship and how much it will cost him/her.
How you make them feel
This is another important factor that affects their falling in love with you. They need to feel they are better off being with you than alone or with somebody else. Stroke their ego, make them feel strong, beautiful and sexy. However the best you can do to make this work is to find out what makes them tick, that is their unique buttons that you can press to get the maximum positive effect; then you will be truly irresistible to them. In other words, make them feel they want to feel about themselves.
Study the psychology of the opposite sex, learn what they like, what turns them on. And last but not least, make sure you don't do any of mistakes that insecure people do, because this is a surefire way to prevent them falling in love with you.
