Your Ex Wants You Back
Is It Really What It Seems?
Ex Wants You Back - His Rekindled Interest
After being separated for some time, it is not unusual that your ex will express a renewed interest in you. This usually happens exactly when you finally started to feel better and have a good life of your own. Seeing you like this will often be a kind of challenge for him, because he secretly wants you to never get over him. Now he might offer to go out together, flirt with you or hint on his interest in some other ways.
How to React?
While these are definite proofs of his interest, you should not show that you are ready to jump back into the relationship with him with your both feet. More often than not it is only the matter of his challenged vanity. When he sees you are doing fine on your own, he will want to prove he is still desired by you. Once he sees you are ready and available, he will dump you again leaving you even more disappointed than before.
What you need to do is to continue building what you already started - complete and exciting life of your own that has nothing to do with your ex or any other man. It is something that is only yours and cannot be taken from you by a whim of your capricious ex. Do not push him away and don't talk about the past issues now. Instead, simply continue what you were already doing as if you are not noticing his attention.
Being excited about something else makes you the most attractive. Think about something you truly love, something you always wanted to do but never had time for it. Decide to do it now. Travel, learn foreign language, take an art class, do sports, build your own website about something you are passionate about, take art classes, start a new business - anything that is beneficial and exciting at the same time. There is simply too many interesting things in this world - you definitely can find something you like!
The more time your new occupation requires, the more challenging it is, the better - the only condition is that it is something you really like. When you get so distracted from your previous problems, you are likely to gain a new perspective. For instance, you might suddenly decide that if you didn't have to go through that painful experience of breakup - you would never realize what the real freedom feels like. You would be still bearing the dull pain of a lukewarm relationship.
So do not get seduced by the signs your ex is sending you now. If you readily jump back into the relationship with him, the chances are you will end up dumped again. In some cases the only thing he really wants is the opportunity to dump you or to make you pay for something you did or said.
Focusing on your own life first will do two important things for you. First, it will prevent you from getting hurt again. And second, it will make your ex truly miss you and want to get you back. Later, when you will be more centered and happy, you might get back together, but this time it will be on your terms.
