Bored Men -
Different Types of Men
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Bored men is probably the most common type between all the different types of men. What is special about these guys is that there was a period in their lives when they were forced to spend a lot of time alone (usually in their childhood). Trying to escape the boredom, they taught themselves to appreciate books and movies, which made them to develop rich fantasy life. Later on, when faced with incongruence between their grand dreams and their actual mediocre experiences, they become bitterly disappointed.
Be aware, however, that you may not recognize a bored man immediately. When these people are young, they often lead life full of adventures - skydiving, rock-climbing, travelling around the world. This is merely a more active way of dealing with their problem, an attempt to cure themselves from bouts of boredom.
When they become older, this may be expressed in excessive reading, traveling, going to movies, art events, collecting stuff or pushing other creative ways to calm their restless hearts. You must not get fooled, though. Beneath the adventurer's mask there is a disappointed and bitter spirit.
For these men, finding love partners is an especially challenging task. They dream of romantic heroines, women with the whole set of rare qualities - just like they saw in movies. But what they get is regular women that seem so petty and small when compared to the women of their dreams.
To find your way to their hearts you will need to understand their world better. You will need to figure out their individual needs and desires. And as it was said earlier, you can't rely on what they are telling you. Instead, you will need to observe them in their unguarded moments. You will need to pay attention to their offhand comments. What do they reveal? Is it frustration with their routine jobs and repetitive experiences? Is it their annoyance with boring friends? Do they complain about general monotony of their lives?
Besides defining their specific problem, you will need to figure out what do they find exciting. Here you will need to take a note of what kind of movies they watch and what kind of books they read. If you do that right you will have a good idea what kind of experiences they are longing for.
Generally, when Bored Men get into relationship they tend to get bored with the woman no matter how beautiful she is. Bored Man is restless, he yearns for different experiences, different pleasures and will get disappointed once the relationship takes the predictable course.
Giving him anything he wants is not an answer. A touch of danger, however, will often do the trick.
If he meets a woman that he thinks offers a variety of different experiences, he will fall in love. In fact, he will grow addicted to her and, unlike others, he will not be able to discard her.
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This is especially true with Bored Men who are older or those who do not take an active approach of dealing with their problem and live in bitterness and disappointment. You may find a relationship with one of the Bored Men quite interesting, because if he thinks you are that special woman for him, he will release a great amount of passion and energy that he was repressing his whole life and will focus it on you. However, the requirements from you are too high and the moment the monotony will creep in, he will be gone.
In marriage, Bored Man's desire for novelty can lead to adultery. His curiosity may outweigh his commitments and sense of responsibility. In addition, as a result of their bitter disappointments Bored Men are prone to suffer from various addictions, like alcohol and drug addictions and gambling.
